Loving Everything

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In our journey of healing and awakening, we often believe, mistakenly, that the darkness is an enemy. We fall into the false belief of duality. We believe that light is good and darkness is bad.

 

When this happens, we run from the darkness. We flee.

 

However, as we gradually wake up on the spiritual path, we learn that all is One.

 

Every single thing is a part of that mysterious being we call “God” or “Source.”

 

This recognition has huge implications. If we recognize that everything is a piece of God, then this means that even the darkness, even the evil, even the suffering has a necessary role to play in the cosmos. Everything is here for a reason; nothing is by accident.

 

Everything is us.

 

 

 

Learning to Love Everything

 

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While our conceptual minds may grasp this life-giving wisdom, our emotional bodies may need some time to adjust. We may need some time for our life experiences to prove to us that, yes, this wisdom is true. We are all One. We are all God.

 

Indeed, it is incredibly challenging to integrate the understanding of ‘all is One’ into our daily lives. Not impossible—but very, very hard! Since birth, our parents and teachers have told us we were separate. We are working against deep programming.

 

So, yes, it takes time. The process of evolution is not a quick one. It must be undertaken with patience and self-compassion.

 

As we awaken, we begin to see the necessity of loving everything that arises—even the darkness.

 

We see how our “sins” are like children, crying out for the compassion of our own motherly love.

 

At this point, you might be asking yourself: Wait a minute!? If I love my darkness, won’t it get stronger???

 

My friend, that’s an understandable question!

 

Imagine a crying baby. In the old days, many parents believed that comforting a crying child would spoil them. In today’s world, most of us understand that if our child is crying, we do not punish the child by ignoring it—no! We go to the child, love it, caress it, nurture it.

 

In the same way, we can bring a loving awareness to whatever arises, even if it happens to appear bad or dark.

 

By comforting ourselves when we do something we dislike or by sending loving thoughts to another person who does something we consider “wrong,” we then transmute those seemingly “negative” energies into love. We convert fear into love.

 

It is only by loving everything that we can create more love.

 

By loving, we do not create more fear. By loving, we actually—finally!—bring an end to the vicious cycles of fear and violence.

 

This does not mean that we passively sit back and allow those in power to trample all over us. No. When action is called for, we courageously take it. If a law is unjust, we disobey it. If we do not appreciate another’s abuse, we walk away from them. Yet, we can do all of these liberating, rebellious acts of dissent with a heart full of love. Love and rebellion can co-exist.

 

We can learn to love everything, even the darkness within our own heart.

 

 

 

The Magic of Healing

 

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By bringing our dark side, our pain, our shortcomings, our suffering, our selfish tendencies up into the light of loving awareness, then that light begins to work the magic of healing. But if all that darkness stays hidden, then no healing can ever happen.

 

We can only heal that which we are conscious of. The first step in solving any problem must be to admit that there is, in fact, a problem.

 

Without bringing our problems out of the shadows and into the light, they will always stay hidden, replicating themselves over and over in an endless cycle.

 

How do we awaken? How do we heal? We learn to love even our shadows. We learn to love even our hate. We learn to love each and every reaction, no matter how grotesque or terrible they might seem. We learn to love it all. We learn to see everything as a vital part of the Universe.

 

This work is not easy, but the rewards are nothing short of miraculous. By bringing to light that which we fear, we heal the wound. As Jesus the Christ said, “If you bring forth what is within you, what you bring forth will save you. If you do not bring forth what is within you, what you do not bring forth will destroy you.” (Gospel of Thomas)

 

 

Mantra Practice

 

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Okay, let’s take this conversation out of the world of theory and into the world of practice. To that end, I would like to offer to you three powerful mantras that you can use in your day-to-day life. These powerful mantras will help you begin—or deepen—your liberating journey into love.

 

  1. “Hello.”

 

When you notice someone doing something that irritates or angers you, simply say “hello” to that irritation or anger.

 

You don’t have to be cheerful about it. You can simply say hello in a neutral way. You can be an observer, a witness.

 

If you’d like, you can take this greeting a step further and say “Hello, how fascinating.” The human brain loves to analyze things—that’s its job! If you add “how fascinating” after saying hello, you are giving your brain delicious permission to observe something dark and “negative”—but without judgement.

 

Something that might help is to think of Mr. Spock from the old TV show Star Trek. He was a really profound, wise character, yet he was rarely judgmental, rarely upset.

 

 

  1. “Well done!”

 

When you observe a dark thought arising in your own mind, you are already awakened! You are already conscious!

 

The skill of mentally distancing yourself (extricating yourself from the swirl of the human drama) in order to be able to observe your own internal thought processes is success in itself! You have won!

 

Next time you notice a dark thought arising in your mind, take a few seconds to congratulate yourself. Pat yourself on the back and say “well done!”

 

By noticing what you don’t want without anger or self-recrimination, you are being a kind and loving parent to yourself. You are giving yourself unconditional love. Through unconditional love, you then feel truly empowered to make changes without shame or blame.

 

  1. “Thank you, darkness.”

 

If you’re an early riser, greet the dawn with a bowed head and the simple mantra “Thank you, darkness.” If you’re more of a night owl, before you go to bed you can bow your head to the night sky and say “Thank you, darkness.”

 

Without darkness, we would not know the glory of the dawn. Without the bitterness of winter, we would not appreciate the magic of the summer. Without the terrors of hate, we would not know the bliss of love.

 

Every day, take a few minutes to salute the darkness. It’s a crucial part of the cosmos, too! Without darkness/ignorance, our light/spiritual illumination could never happen!

 

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By using these three simple mantras, we can, over time, come to trust the fact that loving everything is the wisest thing we can possibly do. We can let go of our fears and soar into the sky.

 

 

Soul Food for Friday: The Truth of the Spiritual Path

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The critics will always be there. Always, there will be those who will scoff, snicker and smirk. But are these folks worth our time and energy?
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The world today is a dense world. Hard-earned paychecks spent at the cinema, rapt in a rush of guns and guts. It’s sad. But once we realize our critics are born from this world—this hard-edged world of darkness and violence—then we can allow our reactions to their cynicism to fall away. No need to wonder if they are right. No need to doubt ourselves.
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We know the truth.
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We know we must follow the spiritual path.

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My Interview with the “Mother of Polyamory”: Deborah Taj Anapol

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I’d like to share something very special with you.
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A few months before her (unexpected) death, I had the great honor and privilege of interviewing Deborah Taj Anapol (1951-2015). This beloved teacher, known to many as the mother of the polyamory movement, was a clinical psychologist, author, and radical teacher. Co-founder of the Loving More magazine, Anapol birthed such keystone books as Polyamory: The New Love Without Limits, The Seven Natural Laws of Love, and Polyamory in the 21st Century.
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It’s been three years since the interview. In my life lately, I’ve been diving even more deeply into profound questions about sexuality, intimacy, consciousness, and human connection. More and more friends are seeking me out, asking whether polyamory and open relationships have a place in their spiritual journey. Anapol’s work seems ever-relevant, ever-poignant.

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Her teachings are simple. If we open our hearts, we lead a more joyful life. If we move past fear and jealousy, we feel more connected to Source. If we can look within, what we see on the outside—in our relationships—will be rich, fulfilling, and abundant.

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Anapol reminds us that sexuality is a mirror for how we perceive ourselves. If we view sexuality (ourselves) as sinful or wrong, then that is exactly what it will be for us. If, on the other hand, we view it (ourselves) as sacred, as a beautiful gift, then that is exactly what it will be.
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Here is the interview. (It was originally published on my previous blog.) I hope you find it every bit as relevant and awe-inspiring as I continue to do.

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Lots of love,
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Anya

 

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Anya:   What is love, and how do we recognize it?
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Deborah:   Love is a vibration, a state of consciousness, an unconditional acceptance of what is along with the awareness that All is One. Love may or may not speak out or take action in response to injustice, but love does not take a position. It’s beyond duality. We can recognize love by its energetic signature, by how we feel in the presence of love.
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Anya:   Once we recognize love and feel its presence, how can we get out of love’s way and allow it to lead? Any practical strategies?

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Deborah:   Essentially, allowing love to lead means that the Ego or Personality stops trying to control and manipulate according to its mission to save us from perceived danger. Instead, we learn to listen, to be receptive and move along the path illuminated by love. We take actions that expand love or increase the vibration of love. We surrender to love’s guidance and stop listening to the voices that lead to fear and contraction and judgment.
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The mind can be tricky and masquerade as the voice of love telling us what we “should” do and making us wrong for asserting ourselves. So the first step, practically, is self-observation. Noticing what you are thinking and feeling and doing and why and what the results are. Many people will need some guidance in learning how to do this and the reflections of others who are more self-aware to point out when you’ve gotten off track.
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Anya:   Let’s talk about self-reflection. I am endlessly fascinated by observing how I change over time, by looking back at various projects over the years, and comparing my philosophies then to my philosophies now. How have your views on polyamory changed since you published your first book on polyamory in 1992?
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Deborah:   My views on polyamory itself really have not changed much at all in that time. What has changed is that I no longer see polyamory as a way to radically change the culture or as a radical solution to the many problems of modern life. Instead it seems that what’s happening is that polyamory is being used to prop up the status quo.
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Anya:   In what ways do you see poly being used to prop up the status quo?
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Deborah:   Atlantic Magazine has joined the ranks of mainstream publications running favorable articles about polyamory. Recently, the emphasis seems to be on how jealousy is manageable, or even non-existent. This makes total sense if you are trying to promote polyamory because once people get over their moral/religious objections, one of the main stumbling blocks is jealousy. The other main stumbling block is time and the cure for that is to work less, but no one seems to be mentioning that yet. If we ever decide that the 40 hour (or for many the 80 hour) work week needs to be cut in half (while increasing income for low and middle income people) and people can be enticed to work less if they can have more intimacy in their lives, then we’ll be getting somewhere.
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Over the last 30 years I’ve witnessed a huge change in how the print media relate to polyamory. It’s gone from an unofficial black out to advocacy. I’d like to think that it’s just that the mainstream has seen the light and is getting more tolerant of diversity, but I don’t see similar articles about how fabulous it is to be gay, for example.
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Judging by the kinds of questions coming from journalists who’ve interviewed me, social policy experts have realized that the nuclear family is an endangered species, just as I predicted in the 80’s. So the question becomes, how can we keep couples together so that we don’t have to shift our whole concept of relationship? How can we lower the divorce rate? Without families, there is a greater burden on government funded social services.
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Since we prefer to spend our tax dollars on the military and bailing out financial institutions, something needs to be done to save the family and preserve the kind of thinking and behavior that says, “these people are my family and I will share my resources with them and take care of them.” That’s all well and good but I’d like to see this attitude extending to all life—all people, animals, plants, oceans—our whole global social and environmental ecological web.
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Anya:   My work, too, is about the connections between spirituality and relationships. It’s what I write about in my book Opening LoveOur partners and intimate friends are like mirrors for us, helping us along on our path, showing us where we need to grow. In your book Polyamory in the 21stCentury, you write: “The blessing and the curse of polyamory is that love that includes more than one tends to illuminate those dark shadows that many would prefer to ignore.”

Dr. Anapol, if you had not become poly, how do you think you would be different person today, on a spiritual level? 

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Deborah:   First of all, I did not “become poly” so much as notice that I was not monogamous and never had been. Once I let go of the identity of monogamy, I attracted a series of lovers who reflected different parts of myself. This allowed me to experience and integrate all of me for the first time. If there had been one person who could be my perfect mirror, I don’t think this would have been necessary, but that’s not what life brought me. And I don’t think it’s what life brings most people, honestly. There is truth in the old saying, “All roads lead to Rome.” I think the journey would ultimately lead to the same place, but it would take longer to get there. Polyamory accelerated my process and that wasn’t always pleasant.
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Without polyamory I might still believe that my happiness was dependent on another person, and I might still think that if only I could find the perfect partner I would be happy. I would have missed the sense of freedom that came when I realized at 23 that jealousy was a choice that I didn’t have to make.
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Anya:   Who have been your most important relationship teachers?
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Deborah:   Without a doubt my lovers and partners have taught me more than anyone, and especially the ones who were leading edge innovators and teachers in this area. Dane Rudyar, in his wonderful little book, Directives for New Life, says that without a high level of intimacy and interpenetration, nothing much happens in the way of transformation.
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Anya:   What do you believe is the biggest impediment to transformation on a global level? What is humanity’s greatest resource for conscious relating?
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Deborah:   This may sound silly, but it’s true. The biggest obstacle to conscious relating is lack of consciousness. People like to talk about conscious relating and feel superior about thinking they are doing it, but when you get down to it, you have to do the personal work of evolving your consciousness. No one can do it for you.
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This evolution is going to look a bit different in different environments, but it’s all evolution wherever you are starting from. In some places, the environment, the culture, is more supportive of change, in some places less, but I think the inner work is more significant and is truly our greatest resource. Having good role models helps of course, but if you haven’t got the awareness to recognize them, what good are they?
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Anya:   What else would you like to share?
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Deborah:   It was important for me at a certain point to let go of the monogamous identity and it seemed useful at the time to replace that with a “polyamorous” identity so that I could see what I was up to. It sounds strange, but I hadn’t really noticed that I was involved in multiple relationships and loved more than one person until I expanded my map of what relationships were possible.
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But after a while, the polyamorous identity can become just another limiting belief, another imaginary category to be mistaken for “who I really am.” Many people, including myself, who’ve been on this journey for a while, don’t want to empower a label to define them. Labels can facilitate communication with other people, at least if the label means the same thing to them that it does to you. Ultimately though, labels become a distraction from realizing that we are much more than any concept can encompass.

How to Prepare for a Reiki Session: 4 Tips

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Hooray! You’ve just scheduled a Reiki healing session. …Now what?

 

In this article, I will describe some simple things you can do in advance of your session. Doing these things will help you attain the maximum benefit for your time and money.

 

Please note: completing these four suggestions is optional. You will always receive healing by simply showing up to the session. However, these additional tips can help you dive even deeper into the miraculous power that is Reiki.

 

Please note: I am not a medical doctor nor am I a licensed medical practitioner or psychologist. This article does not constitute professional medical or psychological advice. I am simply sharing my personal opinion, based upon my years of serving as a minister and Reiki master.

 

 

  1. Journal about your intentions for the session.

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It helps to get very clear about why you are wanting the session. Are you hoping for a physical healing? An emotional release? Intuitive guidance? Are you feeling touch-deprived and simply wanting wholesome human contact? Are you feeling lost and craving spiritual re-connection? Are you simply curious and wanting to learn more about a method of healing?

 

Each day prior to your session, you can spend about 5-10 minutes writing in your journal, answering these questions. If you don’t enjoy writing, you can do some deep reflection by recording yourself speaking on video.

 

Through reflective journaling, you are imprinting powerful messages into your subconscious mind about what you would like to co-create with your practitioner and the Universe. You are clearing subconscious blockages. You are setting the stage.

 

If you take the time to do this journaling, you will enter your session lighter, clearer, and with more confidence in the process.

 

  1. Drink extra water.

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Beginning on the day you sign up for your session, please be mindful to drink extra water. By drinking extra water prior to the session, you are preparing your bodily system to more easily adapt to the healing transformations that will occur.

 

A good rule of thumb is to double the amount you are already drinking per day.

 

Consider drinking purified or spring water, as these are the absolute best for healing. Adding a bit of organic lemon juice will also boost your body’s internal cleansing processes.

 

 

  1. Wear comfortable clothing

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On the day of your session, select clothing that makes you feel relaxed, happy, warm and comfortable. Choose an outfit that is loose around the waistline, so you can breathe fully and easily. If possible, wear natural fibers such as pure cottons or silks.

 

By wearing comfortable clothing, you are signaling to the body-mind that you are allowing a deep relaxation to occur. This allowance is vital to the Reiki healing experience.

 

 

  1. Arrive to your session a bit early.

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If possible, arrive to your session at least ten minutes early. If you can arrive twenty minutes or even a half an hour early, that would be even better.

 

Once you arrive, if the weather is nice and the neighborhood is safe, it would be great to take a slow, meditative walk. With each step, notice the physical sensations of your body moving. Notice the colors of the trees and the landscape. Notice the sounds—are the birds chirping? Are the trees rustling in the breeze? Are there people laughing or talking? Notice the sights and the sounds. Breathe.

 

If the weather is not conducive or if the neighborhood doesn’t seem relaxing to you, then you can simply sit in your car (or find a soothing place nearby, such as a library or a quiet café) and spend a few minutes enjoying the peaceful quiet. Close your eyes and bring your attention to the physical sensation of your breath. Notice your belly and chest rising and falling. Notice the coolness of the air entering your nostrils. Notice the length and duration of your inhales and exhales. Notice everything you can about how it feels to breathe. Allow your mind to calm down and enter a state of simplicity.

 

One of the main purposes of Reiki is relaxation. By arriving a bit early, you give yourself enough time to begin that relaxation process yourself. If you can greet your practitioner with a little bit less tension in your body or with a little bit less mental noise, then your time spent in the healing room will be maximized. Your session will go deeper and be more profound—thanks to you, because you took the time to begin the healing process yourself. Bravo you!

 

In the end, Reiki is all about self-empowerment. There are so many ways that we can make our lives more peaceful, more joyful, more strong and more free. Reiki is one method among many that help us tap into the core of our true selves. Feeling and understanding that true self is what makes true healing possible.

 

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If you’d like to learn additional ways to prepare for a Reiki session, please check out my YouTube video on this topic.

 

I’d love to hear from you in the comments below! Let us know how your Reiki session went!

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Center of Light: An Interview with Keith Anthony Blanchard

keith2Keith Anthony Blanchard is a best-selling author, radio show host, and all-around amazing human. I first met Keith a few years ago, when he interviewed me about my book Opening Love. At the time, I had no idea that our connection would flower into an inspiring friendship.

 

I love Keith. He is a teacher, dedicated to empowering people to live their joy and create from Spirit. He is a lightworker, helping to restore balance in a seemingly dark and chaotic world. He is a friend, on a mission of putting smiles into the hearts of all.

 

I feel blessed to have had the opportunity to interview Keith at this particular juncture of change and tremendous growth. Keith is passionately working on his third book. In this interview, we’ll talk about the message of that book, as well as his views about enlightenment, love, and the cosmic awakening process.
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Keith, before we dive into talking about your next book and the awesome revelations you have to share, I’d like to go back a bit, and talk about your youth. When did you realize your life purpose was to be a spiritual guide? Can you talk about the first few years of your initial awakening?

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Early in my life I considered becoming a Catholic priest. That didn’t last long—once my dad put an electric guitar in my hands, one Christmas. Still, throughout all the years of being a rocker, while my “God path” sat in the closet, somehow, I knew I would return to “it” to fulfill my mission on Earth as a Teacher of Truth.
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What happened was, I dated a girl for ten years. When she left the relationship, I was thrown into a tailspin of depression that was truly a hell. But the Grace bestowed upon me from many past lives of good karma was the beacon to move through my dark night of the soul. In this period, I sought God with such fervor that it cracked a door open to the Divine.
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One day when some residual depression came up, I wanted to finally be clear of it. So, I began to say a prayer to God. Over and over and over, for a month I said, “God, I need to hear Your Voice.” I was passionate, sincere, humble and vulnerable.
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One morning, after a gig at a casino the previous night, I was awakened out of my sleep by Spirit telling me that it was time to “Wake up!” Upon hearing the Voice, I was thrown into the Light and immediately began to have that Voice come sit inside of me and live.

 

When we first met, you interviewed me for your show, Center of Light RadioI really appreciated how open you were to learning about polyamory as a spiritual path—it’s quite a controversial topic for many! So many people don’t want to touch it—they’re too afraid or judgmental. I feel your radio show is this amazing, open, warm platform to discuss diverse spiritual views. That is a rare and beautiful thing.

Please talk to me about the inspiration for starting the show, and how it’s developed over the years to serve humanity’s awakening process.

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I started as a host because of a friend who had just interviewed me; I told him that I would like to interview him as a returned favor. Thinking it was going to end there, I got a call from another friend who had a radio show and needed a break from it. He asked me if I would take over for six weeks. I said, “Sure.” Six weeks later, he asked if I wanted to keep the show for myself. I had to think about it, but it didn’t take very long to get to a resounding: “Yes!”

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Though I ran with the show using the name he created (Searcher’s Roadmap), it didn’t feel like me. So, I asked him if he cared if I changed it. He told me, “Keith, it’s your show. Do what you want.” Center of Light Radio was born in that moment.
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But the real inspiration for Center of Light Radio was people. I love people! Sad people are my life and helping them transform is my bliss. I have come to Earth on a mission to initiate others’ baptism into the Light. This is what I will do ‘till I draw my last breath.
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Who are the spiritual teachers who have most influenced you?

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Jesus, Sai Baba, Swamjii Viswayogi, Buddha, Wayne Dyer, Abraham Hicks, Kryon, Deepak Chopra, and my sister who died many years ago of a condition that took her life at the age of 27. She was my greatest teacher of compassion.

 

What does “enlightenment” mean to you?

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To understand. Not only in the intellect, but in the bones, from the core of the Soul to the surface of the skin. When one lives in this kind of space and knowing, then the space of ongoing knowing widens. This is truly a remarkable arena to play in! When one walks through this gate and into the playground of Soul, the last leg of the journey home has been initiated.

 

Keith, you have a celebrated musical career in addition to your other talents. How does your music influence your writing?

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Music doesn’t, per se, influence my writing. It does something completely different to me. When I am at a gig, after about 5 songs into the set, when I get settled and take off my shoes, “IT” begins to happen.
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What is the “IT”? you may ask. OH, MY GOD! The “IT” is the place where everyone longs to be. My buddies and I have quite a few ways to describe that place: The Zone, Digging IN, Making A Sandwich, Talking To God. My point is, being in this “Zone” so many times has allowed me to shift into “IT” any time I want with mere intention. We can all get into that Zone and I am the guy that can show you how. It’s actually quite easy to do.

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I have learned over the years to simply be EVERYTHING. The universe is simple.

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What is the message of the book you’re writing?

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That no being or thing —NOTHING —has ever been created, nor will ever be created worthier of Infinite Grace than you.

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Understand that there is only ONE path to God, no matter your preferred religion, code, sect, doctrine or deity. God is Love. The path to God is everyone developing Love within themselves. There is no other path.

 

How do you personally feel about this message? What kinds of emotions and thoughts is it bringing up for you?

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It brings me immediately into the Zone just thinking about it. When one begins to touch the Face of God, a liberation of an Infinite magnitude begins to expand into one’s experience. I live in this Kingdom daily. It also reminds me of the work I have yet to do to fully integrate the consciousness of my Spirit back into the loving arms of my Divine Parent.

 

Do you have a sense of how this book will change your life? Of how this book will change the course of humanity?

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The book changes my life every day. Whenever I sit down to write, my life is being changed, making me a more rounded teacher and a more passionate Divine Lover.

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As far as how can the book change the course of humanity, the book points the way to becoming a transcended being. Here is a basic idea about how to start that process:

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Always looking inward and forward, one will continue to lift them Self above the noise that entices them into the fight…

You will no longer be bickering with your loved ones.

No more arguing about politics.

Counterpointing racism.

Fueling the fear of terrorism.

Warring with drama of the world.

In essence, you will no longer be fighting your Self!

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To go back to your question, a bit ago, about what emotions are coming up for me … The emotions of joy and gratitude I feel in this moment contain vast amounts of encrypted information. It is this wellspring from which I draw an outpouring of my heart as a gesture and love offering.

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The seemingly unreachable is reachable, and it requires nothing from you except watering the plant that is YOU! That’s the depth of letting go that I am bringing to light here.

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Until recently, I have lived my life always trying to figure things out. Finally, it dawned upon me, “Ah … Keith, in all of this ‘trying to find your way,’ have you found your way? Why not toss it in the trash and be done; for it is all nonsense and will not grant you access into the magical space that lies just beyond logical thought.” Realizing this, a portal to the Divine has opened and has been expanding ever since.

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The bliss, glory and peace that is happening in my life right now is immeasurable. It is from this space the Divine Comedy and that Poetic Light shines and expresses itself into Being. am that Being. You are that Being. We are that Being. That is the gig — Being!

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So, I guess that question becomes,“How do let it all go to the depth that you have, Keith?” I can’t tell you with mere words how to do that. Instead, let me inspire you to find your own way as you witness who I am, how I feel, what I experience and what it is doing not only to me, but to others with whom I come in contact.

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Divine sparks are firing up all around me. It is Spiritual Law! As I live in the Light of Truth, Truth’s Light illuminates everything, everywhere I look. This perspective of mine or anyone’s is what will change the course of humanity.

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This same Holy Fire once ignited within you, will be the end of all of your misery and suffering. Please, my dear friends, take this motivational match, strike it and burn! Burn with the effulgence of ten-thousand suns. Engulf those around you as I do and illuminate your world, universe and Divinity.

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What I want to leave you with is this: Within the center of your chest is a stargate . . . an opening to the Golden Door entering the Kingdom of Forever. Once you cross the bridge to the Soul, beautiful things will begin to happen through, to, and for you. You will then become aware of your connection to the Christ, Buddha, Allah, Krishna, your loved ones, and everything else of which you were never separated.

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Remember, expanding into your birthright is not an arduous task! It is simple. Be easy on yourself. So much so that, you are willing to lose everything to gain your Self.

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In all love, as your brother, meet me in that Light, and in the Garden of the Soul, as Divine Children, we will play . . . FOREVER!
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What is love?

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Acceptance – Allowance – Appreciation!

Anya is Love.

 

Sri Sathya Sai Baba

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Like the flower who bears no honey,

I stumble like a drunk—

pitiful, yearning,

totally ignorant of my radiant color.

Purples, pinks, greens—

when form meets taste,

the dance begins.

Reds, yellows, whites—when sound meets light,

desire materializes.

 

Oh Merciful Lord,

Oh life-giving Swami,

I cannot dance one more day

In the darkness

Without your love.

 

I must forget who I am

and revert back to dust.

I must remember.

I must forget.

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Dragonflies and Flesh

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The sun is the
moon
tonight.
Daughter of all stars.

A blue clearing pervades the sky,
taking names
(persuading even
the bottom of these clear blue lakes)

We’re covered with mist, my dear.
We’ve covered in kisses.
This is the moment—
this is the moment
the door swings open.

We can finally finally sing.

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Co-Evolution

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In the Vajrayana Buddhist tradition, there is the philosophy and practice of the tantric consort relationship. Rarely, remarkably, in a flash of miraculous lightning, a person appears in our lives who is so perfectly suited to us that all others pale in comparison. When we meet this partner, this dear sacred consort, we must recognize all that this relationship asks of us. We must bow before it, surrender.
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The practice of tantric consort is a lifelong practice. It is blissful, sublime, yet incredibly challenging. It is nothing less than a path to enlightenment. If we are blessed to have met such a person and if we have the courage to surrender to the transformative power of this relationship—to all that it can teach us and to all that it can change within us—then there is the possibility for a real merging of souls to occur. There is now not two people, but one. In this sacred togetherness, the notion of a separate self, or a separate ego, drops away. In its place is pure unity and love.
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In the following poem, Alistair J. Kraft dives into the waters of such an all-encompassing, unifying love. Kraft asks us, as readers, to drop our defenses, recognizing that some bonds are more powerful than our individual will to resist … some bonds thrust us into pure being. Some bonds, some paths, we have no choice but to follow.
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I hope you enjoy this beautiful poem.
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–Anya Light
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♥♥

 

CO-EVOLUTION

 

There is a pathway into

my heart that only you

are shaped to follow, forged

by the sum total of our lives,

experiences, bringing us inexorably

inevitably

fatefully to each other’s arms we co-

evolved to fit together with a

blinding perfection, heart to

heart, soul to

soul and from that we both

find a place to call home, someone

to touch those places no one else

is shaped to reach in our depths.

Of all the possible lovers in a life

this is your home in my soul, only I

am this home in yours.

 

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Alistair J. Kraft is a poet, author, professor, part-time pagan, and animal lover based in Cincinnati, Ohio. He spends his spare time contemplating social justice, comedy, and how cute his rescue animals are. He can be found on Facebook at Alistair J. Kraft, or on Instagram and Twitter @poetofcats

Feeling Safety: A Guided Meditation

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This is a guided meditation for when we are struggling with anxiety and negative thoughts.

 

The underlying cause of anxiety and negative thinking are false beliefs. These false beliefs are fear-based. Quite simply, we don’t feel safe in the present moment. We don’t feel safe in our bodies. We feel that, just around the corner, there is probably a menace, a terrible awful thing that is about to happen—and so we stay on guard.

 

This is where anxiety comes from. This is where worried, dark thoughts come from, as the brain tries to save itself by imagining and planning for worst-case scenarios.

 

This meditation, “Feeling Safety” is very simple. We can practice anywhere, anytime. We can do it during a meeting at work. We can do it while you’re with your children or at the grocery store. It can be done with our eyes open and while we are standing or moving.

 

The meditation brings a feeling of peace, ease, and safety because it draws our attention away from the vicious loop of negative thinking. It places our attention squarely on three simple things: hands, feet, and mantra.

 

Through this meditation, we replace the negative thinking with a positive truth that will instill confidence to return to our daily life. Understanding that we are, ultimately, safe and protected within the home of our bodies gives us a sense of ease and confidence. The fact that our bodies are firmly rooted to the Earth through our feet is a metaphor for what is true on a spiritual level: we are always connected, we are always safe.

 

As with any meditation, please make this your own. Feel free to add your own elements, and/or skip parts of this meditation that don’t make sense for you. Play with it. Feel it out. Take what works, and discard the rest.

 

Step One

Acknowledge that you are feeling anxious and having negative thoughts. In your mind say, “Okay, now I will do the Feeling Safety Meditation.”

 

Step Two

Begin to gently tap your fingertips against the palms of your hands. You can start with your left hand. Simply observe the sensation of it—the physical sensations of your fingertips tapping against the palm of your hand. Are your fingers hot? Cold? Sweaty? Sticky? Is the skin of your palm soft or rough? Are your joints flexible or stiff? Is the movement fast or slow? Are there sounds? Are your nails sharp? Simply notice, on a physical level, how it all feels. After you’ve done this with your left hand, repeat the same process with your right hand. Do this for a few minutes.

 

Step Three

In unison, with both hands simultaneously, tap your fingertips against your palms. Try to coordinate the movement so that both hands are perfectly in tune.

 

Step Four

While continuing to tap your fingertips against your palms, repeat the mantra: “I am home in my body. I am safe in my body.” If you are with others, you can say the mantra silently in your mind. If you are alone, you can say it out loud. Say this mantra as many times as you need to until you begin to feel calmer and more peaceful.

 

Step Five

Now stop tapping your fingertips against your palms. Begin to gently tap your feet against the ground. If you are in public amongst others, this can be a very subtle thing—just a very light tapping will do. If you are alone, you can tap more forcefully, if you wish. You could even stomp on the ground, feeling the vibration rise up through your leg. As you tap or stomp your feet, continue to the say the mantra “I am home in my body. I am safe in my body.” Do this as many times as you wish until you feel better and ready to continue your day.

♥♥♥

 

How did this meditation go for you, dear ones? I’ve love to hear about your experiences in the comments below.

How to Hold Space for Someone: 4 Tips for Facilitating an Awakening Environment

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As a life coach and energy healer, my job is to hold space. At core, my job is not really to give advice or to say wise words. In reality, the deepest, most healing aspect of what I do is to hold space for other people.

 

But what does it mean to hold space?

 

To hold space is to create an environment that is supportive for healing and spiritual awakening. (In reality, healing and spiritual awakening are one and the same.) To hold space is to act as a clear mirror for the other person: to nurture the process of the other person courageously looking within.

 

When one looks within, one discovers the intuition and wisdom that is already there.

 

Indeed, to hold space is to trust that the other person knows best—knows how to heal herself, knows how to change, knows how to grow, knows what to do. Holding space is a radical act of faith in the harmony of the Universe. Holding space is a radical act of generosity and of love.

 

When I first heard about the importance of holding space for another human being, I assumed it was easier than it really was. Yet, over the years, I’ve discovered that holding space can be quite challenging

 

Why is it challenging?

 

It is challenging because it requires a loosening of the ego. It requires cultivating an aura of non-judgment, non-reactivity. It requires compassion and unconditional love.

 

Holding this kind of sacred space, this kind of loving awareness is the ultimate gift. It is the ultimate healing force.

 

With this in mind, here are four tips for how to hold space for another person. You can use these strategies both in your professional healing practice or in your personal life with friends and family.

 

  1. Make peace with silence

 

There will be moments in your meeting when silence naturally arises. This is ok.

 

Don’t feel like you have to fill up every moment with speaking. There may be moments when the other person wants to stare out the window and gather their thoughts. Or maybe there are moments when you are both at a loss for words, overcome by tears and strong emotions.
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Don’t rush to fill the silence. Simply allow the silence to be another participant in the unfolding scene. Welcome the silence as a friend.

 

  1. Your whole world is that person

 

In our fast-paced, hectic society, when you give the gift of total attention, you are giving a priceless gift.

 

When you hold space for someone, you dedicate yourself fully.

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For the time being, your whole worldis that person. Your whole entire universe. Nothing else matters; nothing else exists.

 

When a person comes to you seeking solace or guidance (regardless of whether that person is a friend, family member, neighbor, client, or coworker), what they really want is to feel is that they matter. What the other person ultimately wants—whether they are consciously aware of it or not—is to feel your total attention on them. They want to feel that you are truly there with them.

 

When you hold sacred space, it’s not the time to think about yourself or your own issues. Be “all in” with that other person. Be utterly devoted, like a lover.

 

 

  1. Be like a child

 

Holding space is sacred and precious because it requires a (temporary) dropping of egoic boundaries.

 

When we hold space for someone, we find the courage to temporarily set aside our own separate, individual self—our own wants, desires, opinions, storyline, and beliefs. In order to hold space, we must be like a newborn baby: fresh into the world, without preconceived notions about what is right or wrong, possible or impossible. We must be simple, innocent, curious, open-hearted, sweet, and gentle.

 

For most of us in society, we have been trained to use our intellect as the dominant tool for processing our reality. The intellect (the ego), unfortunately, does not know how hold space. Rather, what holds space is the heart—and the quality of the heart is childlike innocence.

 

  1. Recognize that holding space for someone else is facilitating your own awakening process

 

When we commit ourselves to the practice of holding space for another human being, what we actually also do is facilitate our own awakening.

 

Holding space is like meditation. When we hold space, we become clear. We become pure.

 

When we intentionally step out of the constrictions of our ego, the more that the flavor of enlightenment permeates every cell of our body. The more we act as a clear, open mirror for someone, the less gunk we have in the way of our own awakening.

 

Holding space is a gift you give … and it is also a gift you receive.

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Dear friends, I’d love to hear your stories.

When was the last time you held space for someone? What did it feel like to hold space? What was scary about it? Exciting about it? Please comment below, so we can all learn together.