In my practice as a Sacred Sexual Healer and Transformational Guide, part of my role is to serve as a sexual shaman. The heart of this shamanic role involves widening my fields of perception, as well as helping others achieve this. I work to open the doors of seeing.
This work manifests in a number of ways, including working in spirit realms and dream space.
In a lucid dream, we can make conscious choices that influence the course of the dream.
Lucid dreaming enables us to interact, with intention, with aspects of our deeper selves.
When I began this work, I had been reading a wonderful book I’d received from my mentor, Lucid Dreaming: Gateway to the Inner Self. This book introduced me to the concept of using lucid dreaming to heal yourself or others. This involves making a conscious choice while dreaming to offer healing. (Of course, when offering healing to others you must always ask permission, just as you would if you were offering healing in waking life.)
There was a fascinating synchronicity in the fact that I was reading this book at a time when I was feeling sick. I had a brutal sore throat and my voice had become quite wonky. One night it reached a point at which I was experiencing knife-like pain in my throat, and I was coughing and congested and generally felt pretty miserable.
I wanted to do something to ease the pain in my throat, and I decided it wouldn’t hurt to try a little lucid dreaming. I decided to hold the intention to enter into lucid dream and heal my throat, with all of my shamanic awareness. I admit: As I began, I was very skeptical, but ultimately, I was so blown away and grateful for what opened up.
There are a number of techniques one can use to enter into a journey of lucid dreaming. I will describe the methods that I used.
The journey began with focusing my attention very strongly on my hands. I brought my awareness to my hands and held the intention that I would be able to use my hands as a way to remember that I was in control of the dream.
One of the methods I use to hold an intention during this or other shamanic work is to literally write it out on paper. I believe there is something quite powerful about bringing intention into physical reality by physically writing it down.
So, that night, I wrote my intention in my journal, and the words went something like this:
Tonight, while I am dreaming I will see my hands, and I will realize that I am dreaming. Once I realize I am dreaming, I will heal my throat.
I wrote those words down, and keeping my attention on my hands, recited them like a mantra. I had considered setting the intention of healing my whole body, as I did have other symptoms. But, I decided to keep the practice very simple, specific, and focused on my throat.
Part of the process I used to solidify my intention and enter into lucid dreaming involved working with my sexual energy.
Sex Magic: Working with sexual energy to manifest intention
Our sexual energy is the powerful, creative energy that is our life force. This is the energy that brought us into being. We can tap into this energy with a little intention and awareness, and of course with consent, integrity, and respect for our own bodies and for others. I hold this to be very sacred.
There are many ways to work with sexual energy for healing. I will tell you about the steps I used.
- During self-pleasure, feel your sexual energy flowing through you.
- Begin to channel that energy towards your intention. (In my case, it was my mantra: My intention of seeing my hands in a dream, becoming aware, and healing my throat.)
- In particular, try to focus your sexual energy on an intention right at the moment of orgasm.
- Allow that yummy, spacious “WOW!” energy that we experience during orgasm to infuse your intention.
Indeed, I had an exquisite self-pleasure experience that night, despite the pain in my throat. It felt lovely and as I drifted off to sleep while still holding that mantra in my mind, I was smiling and felt like I was floating in a sort of blissful cocoon.
When I began to dream, I immediately saw my hands in the dream. I was so surprised! I was dreaming, and I knew it. In the dream, I was sitting in my yard. I was out in nature, which was even more cool! I became so excited that the dream dissolved and I woke up.
I was ecstatic that I had accomplished this, and I immediately wrote the experience down in my dream journal. However, I eventually realized that I hadn’t followed through with the rest of the intention. I had not done any work to heal my throat. I realized that I would have to go back. So, I focused again on my hands and recited my mantra and I gradually drifted again to sleep.
Similar to before, I was dreaming of being in my yard space, and I became aware that I was dreaming. I also became aware of a man who was to my right. I was tempted to engage with him, but I remembered to stay focused on my intention to heal my throat.
Looking at my hands in the dream, I saw that I was now holding a day lily bud. I knew it to be a day lily even though it looked somewhat different from those I was familiar with from waking life. I had been working recently with day lilies as an edible wild plant in my backyard. I had just learned that you can harvest the buds and sauté and eat them like green beans. They are just lovely.
I saw the day lily bud in my dream and I knew that I was supposed to eat it. So, I took a bite. And even though in waking life there is nothing inside the bud, when I tasted the dream lily it filled my mouth and throat with a cooling liquid that felt amazing. I received the liquid. I drew it in and knew I was supposed to eat the whole flower.
I had a moment in which I experienced a strange sense of anxiety about eating the flower; I wondered if it was safe. I had dreamed in the past of eating or drinking, but I had never before felt the physical sensation of consuming something, feeling its presence and texture in my mouth and body. I wondered if I should be doing this. After a bit of reflection, I decided that yes, this was the healing I had asked for, and I felt overwhelmed with gratitude and joy as I finished the lily bud.
I spent a little more time in my dream, some of it talking to the person who was sitting there to my right. The dream concluded after my interactions with him and I woke up. I wondered if I should try to go back to the dream, but I said no. I decided to just let things be and try not to notice anything right now about how I felt or anything that might have changed.
I recorded the dream in my journal and went back to sleep. During the night, I had a few other dreams that were semi-lucid and also centered on healing my throat. I had a dream in which I drank an herbal infusion, and another in which I ate a piece of chocolate.
The next morning when I woke, I nervously swallowed and checked in with my throat. To my astonishment, I perceived vast improvement. The previous night I would have ranked my pain as an “8” on a 1-to-10 severity scale. This morning I rated it a “2” or a “3.” My voice was not quite returned to normal, but the sharp knife-like pain I had been experiencing was completely gone. I felt filled with gratitude to Spirit.
Trusting in the Possibilities of Spirit
I have continued to explore healing and lucid dreaming, as well as using sexual energy to help facilitate those transitions.
It can be so difficult at times to trust that there are other possibilities, and that by working with and through Spirit, we can have a significant impact on what we see as rock-solid consensus reality. We are vastly infinite energetic beings who for a time exist in a finite form. But we can still tap into that infinitude if we trust it.
This doesn’t mean we have to shed all of our skepticism. A good dose of skepticism can be healthy. But, if we can crack open the door just a little bit, and be willing to try and see what happens, then we can open ourselves to new worlds of possibility.
Part of this also involves trusting ourselves as creative human beings with the ability to impact our world as we continue to expand our awareness. At each step in our journey, we encounter moments when we recognize that new possibilities have opened to us. These are the moments when we need to slow down. Bring our awareness to our body, our minds, and shedding the layer that no longer serves us. We let go a little bit and let these things drop away. We slow down in these moments out of love and respect.
These are the basic tenets of opening our awareness and connecting with possibility. These are the basic tenets of trust
Leslie Blackburn, MS, RCST® is a Sacred Sexual Healer & Transformational Guide—a leading educator and coach of sacred sexuality and tantra in the US. A former mechanical engineer specializing in quantum physics, and Ironman triathlete before her spiritual awakening, she has conducted thousands of individual client sessions, leads workshops regularly, and has reached thousands with her inspirational presentations ranging from intimate groups to large speaking engagements. Her monthly radio program is one of the most listened-to on Body Mind Spirit Radio. She bridges the gap between sexuality and spirituality, covering tantra, consciousness, sexual anatomy and energetics, yoga, meditation, sacred geometry, and more. Leslie’s personal path and work has been the integration of the ever-unfolding feminine in body and psyche with masculine direction and purpose—Love in Action! Find out more about her work at www.LeslieBlackburn.com